When “Having It All” Starts to Feel Like Losing Yourself

The quiet unraveling that leads you back to the person you were always meant to be.

It starts quietly.
Not with burnout or breakdown, but with the kind of fatigue that seeps in under the surface. The kind that makes you take a deep breath before walking into a room and smile when you don’t really feel like smiling.

You tell yourself you’re fine. You’ve got the career, the relationships, the house, the degree, the checklist. You’ve “arrived.” But inside, something hums—a quiet ache that doesn’t match the life you worked so hard to build.

It’s the ache that shows up when you finish a big project and feel relief instead of pride.
It’s the ache that lingers when someone praises you for being “so composed,” and you realize what they really mean is “so contained.”
It’s the ache that whispers at night, when the house is finally quiet, Is this all there is?

We don’t talk about that part enough—the unraveling that comes wrapped in achievement.

Because the truth is, many of us have learned to live by scripts that were handed to us before we ever had a chance to write our own.
Scripts about what success should look like.
Scripts about how good women lead, love, and endure.
Scripts that reward us for being agreeable, accommodating, and endlessly capable.

And for a while, those scripts work. They get us applause, access, even admiration.
But over time, they cost us something bigger: ourselves.

When “having it all” starts to feel like losing yourself, it’s not failure. It’s feedback. It’s your soul tapping you on the shoulder and asking, Is this still true?

That’s what Meant for More is all about—not blowing up your life, but finally listening to it.

Where Are You in Your Meant for More Journey?

A quick reflection to help you see which part of your story you’re living right now, and what might come next.

You don’t need to overhaul your life to begin again.
You just need to know where you are.

This quiz will help you see which stage of the Meant for More journey you’re in right now:

• Awareness: You’re starting to notice the script you were handed.

• Agency: You’re beginning to trust your own voice and make new choices.

• Action: You’re living your truth in small, powerful ways every day.

There are no wrong answers, just honest ones.